“If there’s anything worse than Alzheimer’s, it’s ignorance of the disease.” — Marty Schreiber
Alzheimer’s disease creeps slowly into a person’s life but never retreats. Eventually, the individual’s memory fails in too many important areas, and someone must keep watch. Due to the need for round-the-clock care, the caregiver’s partner invariably bears the brunt of the responsibility.
Former governor of Wisconsin Marty Schreiber watched his beloved wife, Elaine, gradually transform from the woman who gracefully entertained in the Executive Residence to one who sometimes no longer recognizes him as her husband. In My Two Elaines: Learning, Coping, and Surviving as an Alzheimer’s Caregiver, Marty candidly counsels those taking on this caregiving role. More than an account of Marty’s struggles in caring for his wife, My Two Elaines also offers sage advice that respects the one with Alzheimer’s while maintaining the caregiver’s health. Furthermore, as two-thirds of those with Alzheimer’s are women, Marty offers special guidance for men thrust into an unexpected job. With patience, adaptability, and even a sense of humor, Marty shows how love continues for his Second Elaine.
“Rather than worrying about the storm to pass, try to learn how to dance in the rain.” —Marty Schreiber
In a humble and candid interview on our radio show for caregivers, Governor Schreiber shares hard-won insights in his journey caring for his wife, Elaine. In addition, as Alzheimer’s increasingly took hold of his wife, Gov. Schreiber recognized that his own life hung in the balance, due to vainly trying to beat a disease that cannot be beaten. Yet, he gradually learned to let go of the “first” Elaine, in order to love and care for the “second” Elaine. In addition, he also learned to better care for his own heart and soul.
“When there’s an diagnosis of Alzheimer’s …there are TWO patients.” — Marty Schreiber
About Peter Rosenberger
A thirty-year caregiver for his wife, Gracie, who lives with severe disabilities, Peter Rosenberger understands the journey of a caregiver as few do. His experience led to him to author four books including Hope for the Caregiver, and 7 Caregiver Landmines and How You Can Avoid Them.
Peter recently earned a 2nd Dan (degree) black-belt in Hapkido. Furthermore, Peter is also an accomplished pianist. He recently release his new CD, Songs for the Caregiver.
Peter and Gracie live in Nashville, TN, where he also serves and the president and co-founder of Standing With Hope.